Saturday, December 28, 2013
Wednesday, November 27, 2013
Friday, November 1, 2013
|It's small but the scab on her eyebrow is definitely there.|
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Sunday, September 22, 2013
|Steve chauffeured her in 2010 and she enjoyed it again today.|
Friday, September 20, 2013
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Saturday, August 17, 2013
Saturday, June 22, 2013
Saturday, May 25, 2013
It's becoming the norm now for Mom to be sleeping or feeling tired when I visit. She's happy, just tired. She's bleeding on a regular basis now but has no pain. It may seem wrong to let it go on but I'm following Mom's lead.
Years ago she made the decision to not force Daddy to eat. She felt she needed to trust his instincts, in spite of the Alzheimer's.
It's a difficult decision but I know that bringing in a doctor to try and fix the problem would be upsetting to Mom. At 97, should I make her go through that? I think not. She wouldn't want it. She's content to enjoy her surroundings and sleep when she wants.
So now, as long as Mom is happy and in no pain, I'm content to sit with her while she sleeps.
Sunday, May 19, 2013
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
I was delayed for awhile by knee surgery and jury duty but I finally was able to start a job search. As things began to heat up, I started changing my visit schedule hoping Mom wouldn't notice since it had been a bit weird after my knee surgery. I also thought that she was settled enough and forgetting enough that my being there or not wouldn't matter.
So how is it that when I get a job, she ends every visit with, "You'll be back this evening won't you?". She hasn't done that since last year! Telling her I have a meeting doesn't placate her either. She actually gets a little pout going when I tell her I'll be back but not for a bit. How does she know!!
I have to be realistic even though she pulls at my heartstrings. I began my new job yesterday at Disabled American Veterans (WWW.DAV.org) and I love it! It makes me feel close to Daddy because he served in WWII as did his two brothers. I also have a big brother who served in Vietnam and another in Korea at the same time. I'm sad to say that on my very first day working, we were shocked by the bombings in Boston. The victims were not military but you can't help thinking what our service men and women go through. I'm glad I can help them in some small way in my job.
I'm glad that I can count on Tina to take care of Mom while I'm working. She spent some time with her at Mom's 97th birthday party.
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Last fall, Mom's new doctor suggested giving her a daily dose of vitamin D. I thought nothing of it at the time and agreed to allow it. It was a bit of a joke that our 96 year old mom didn't need any medications, only a vitamin.
I guess that was the wrong decision. Although I'm sure the vitamin didn't cause the problems that followed, it obviously didn't help because we saw no change for the good.
Very soon after starting the vitamin, Mom developed a mild case of pneumonia. She had quite a heavy cough and congestion and an x-ray showed a small spot of pneumonia in one lung. Given that she got up each day, took part in activities and ate every meal, her symptoms weren't any worse than what she had experienced in the past so we decided to stick with an antihistamine and some Mucinex. The combination worked well and the pneumonia settled down.
Another issue cropped up next. Possibly because of the meds and/or vitamin, Mom's hemorrhoids started bleeding badly. That continued for awhile but settled down, interestingly enough, after the meds and vitamin were stopped.
|Mom was so happy to see everyone at Christmas!|
Christmas rolled around and our family got together at my brother's and Mom was thrilled. Shortly after Christmas, she received her present - a bout of diarrhea. Again, Mom didn't seem to notice, never complaining and going about her days as usual. It made extra work for Tina but as always, she was wonderful with Mom.
I did get in on a bit of the fun but unfortunately my visits were limited during the last few months due to a knee problem and an unexpected surgery on the same. I'm thankful every day that Tina is taking care of Mom so I don't have to worry but I'll be glad when I can get back to my normal visits.
Another little tidbit to think about if you have a loved one in an ALF that charges based on services needed - after a few weeks of the vitamin D, I received a call from the Health and Wellness director at the ALF. She was concerned about the bill because the addition of the one pill - Mom's only daily medication - they had to charge a medicine charge of $16 a day. Not for the pill, that's billed by pharmacy company. The charge is for the nurse keeping track of it and providing it daily. Having seen absolutely no change in Mom while she took it - other than the pneumonia - we decided to drop it.
|You would never know she's been sick!|